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副标题: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life
电子书下载格式:mobi+epub+pdf+txt
作者:RobinStern
出版时间:2018-1-9
书籍简介:
In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works, how you can decide which relationships can be saved and which you have to walk away from—and how to gasproof your life so you’ll avoid gaslighting relationship.
Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time.
Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back, you wonder if your mother is right and figure that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism.
If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from.
Are you being gaslighted? Check for these telltale signs:
1) Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse?
2) When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world?
3) Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar?
4) Do you have trouble making simple decisions and constantly second guess yourself?
5) Do you frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to your family and friends?
6) Do you feel hopeless and joyless?
作者简介:
[美]罗宾·斯特恩
纽约大学应用心理学博士，现为耶鲁大学情商中心的联合创始人和副院长，也是耶鲁大学儿童研究中心的学者。她是一名获得执照的精神分析师，有30年的从业经验，病人包括个人、夫妇及家庭。罗宾是RULER（耶鲁大学情商中心创立的将情商引入学校和工作场所的方法）的共同开发者之一，也是家庭版的RULER的共同开发者之一，同时是中心各学院的首席培训师。目前，罗宾也在哥伦比亚大学教育学院任教。她出版了两部著作：《煤气灯效应》和《重生项目》（Project Rebirth）。
罗宾是伍德哈尔学院的创始成员之一。她在那里花了15年时间创立并推动培养女性领导的计划。她曾担任许多美国广播节目的嘉宾，并到访多个地方，进行有关情商和关系霸凌的讲座。罗宾定期对全球各地的学校和公司提供咨询服务，并在过去的5年中和脸书合作，开发出了一套帮助成人和儿童培养情商、解决网络暴力的工具。目前，罗宾为康涅狄格州纽黑文市的斯米洛癌症医院提供咨询服务。在2014年至2015年间，罗宾是耶鲁大学公共之声团队的成员，她的文章曾在多个广受欢迎的媒体平台发表，包括《今日心理学》、《赫芬顿邮报》、时代网、《华盛顿邮报》、《国会山报》和《哈佛商业评论》。她还是情商研究协会、“危机热线”和“由我开始”的顾问团成员。
罗宾居住在纽约。她很珍惜和儿子斯科特、女儿梅利莎的关系。他们也都在追寻着自己充满激情的梦想。
刘 彦 译
资深媒体从业者，金话筒奖和中国新闻奖得主，《韦氏高阶英汉双解词典》审稿专家，擅长英语教学、交传及同传。
